I am going to have to work on this behavior today. I have awaken in a depressed, frustrated, do nothing state today....thanks in part to the experience I share below.
This is a venting post. Here we go. I have been very excited about our plans for change. Building a new house, retiring for Fred and then moving to sunshine. I have felt no reservation or fear about these changes. I have felt confident and have been praying that Heavenly Father will prepare a buyer for our house. So last night I went visiting teaching to someone who I know does not have the capability of filtering her comments, but the result of the evening puts a huge damper on my dwindling joy. Comments like "I am excited for you, but I don't think I have the courage to do what you are doing with the economy and housing market. Are you going to be able to sell your home? What about social security? Oh you don't know what your financial situation is? I have to know....tsk tsk" shake the head. In my defense, I know enough about our financial situation that I feel very secure and so I've just been on the ride. I know that is not the smartest and most responsible on my part, but I know Fred is on top of it and we have enough or we wouldn't be doing this. FYI if you don't already know this.....Fred thinks, analyzes, studies, worries about everything. So if he thinks we can do this, I'm not worried.
What happened to "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Does it help a friend if you question their already made decisions? To cast doubt and worry on a situation that is already in motion? I don't need anyone's negative vibes about what we are doing. It's a dream for us and we have something to look forward to. Just be happy and supportive.
I miss the days of visiting teaching when I had the whole day to schedule appointments and had partners that were available to come along and people to visit that actually let you come and wanted you to come. Yes notes, emails and phone calls make it so much easier, but if people won't even allow you a 20 minutes to 1/2 an hour a month to sit down together and visit, why bother? Although, as you can see that lovely experience totally backfired on me last night.
I AM SORRY IF I HAVE EVER LET MY INSENSITIVE AND BIG MOUTH SAY SOMETHING THAT HURT YOU. I never mean to do that. I really do try to temper my comments and be a source of validation or uplift.